Higher Ground, Greater Challenges

Most of my batch mates (both in HS and College) have taken a higher step in their lives. Some are already working while some are looking for work. There are friends who've decided to work and nurture their lives abroad. We've taken different paths in order to create a life that we want. Yet, even if these things are signs that we've matured, there are still other things that I find we’re too young to get involved with.

Just last night, I realized that I am sort of sad of the "serye nang di inaasahang pagbubunits" among my classmates in High School. Of course, I am not sad about the idea of seeing them building a family. I am not sad about the idea of seeing new babies born. I am just sad that they would be missing things they should have experienced if they weren't in that situation.

We're just starting with our lives as professionals (for the lack of term). Two or three years after graduation won’t even be enough to help your family and to give your self a reward of sorts -- good and better paying job. We're still in the period of trying to find ourselves (for the lack of term again). We're in a period of trying to improve our lives. And, to have a partner and eventually have a family, or a kid and eventually a family at such point is not really recommendable (IMHO).

A friend and I were chatting the other night. We shared the same sentiment. We find that these young ladies have really great potentials and that marrying at a young age would limit, delay, or even hurdle their potentials. I remember him saying, "talagang walang progreso ang bansa. walang oportunidad ang mga tao." I must say that such could be one of the factors why a lot of young people marry at an early age. But of course, such should never be an excuse for anyone not to strive in making their lives better or struggle in creating an opportunity for themselves.

While watching the story of Michael de Mesa and Gina Alajar on the Buzz and S-Files (Disclaimer: I'm not a regular viewer, wala akong mapanood at iniintay ko ang pag-amin ni Bossing at ni Pia. Yuck ako!), I suddenly realized that their story reaffirms the idea that marrying at an earlier really has great disadvantages. After being together for 25 years (I guess), they decided to end their marriage as they suddenly realized they simply aren't meant for each other.

That's one thing I don't want to happen to my friends who married at an early age. Of course, that's also something I don't want to happen to me (even if I don't plan to marry at an early age).

It is imperative for us to be anxious of our life as well as the lives of those people who could be affected by our decisions. If we plan to build a family, it is our responsibility to give a good life to our future partner and children. A good life means giving our kids good education, providing them their daily needs, making them good persons, and providing them a dependable and trust-worthy family. It also means giving our partner the honest lover and best friend that he/she could ever have.