I just thought this might help those people who are in this situation right now or probably those who might be in such situation in the future. But this particularly goes to someone who sent me a text message the other day. I know you read this blog (at least once in a while), hope this entry helps! :P
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Every girl would wish to meet their dream partners like the way Cinderella met her prince and Belle met the Beast. Funny, but nearly everyone would like to have a fairy-tale love story or at least a movie-like love story that they could never forget (I guess that doesn’t exclude me. But then again, aren’t all love stories made to be like a fairy-tale?).
But sad to say, not everyone could have a successful love story. In fact, not everyone could even experience a love story. Not everyone will be able to find the right prince or princess. Sometimes, given that they haven't found their right counterpart, they would have to make a serious choice of being single forever.
Is being single forever horrifying?
For some persons who've been searching all their lives (O.A. naman ata kung “all their lives”) for the “right special someone”, to be single forever would be something that they couldn't imagine themselves to be in. For some people who've imagined raising their own families, to be single forever may cause anguish.
Most of the people who are at the late 20's and early 30's would be somehow in a rush and in anxiety in case they realized that they are not yet married or committed. I guess this is basically because of the following:
1. They are afraid to live alone forever.
2. They are afraid to grow old alone.
3. They feel frustrated that they aren't able to fulfill that fairy-tale story thing.
4. They are sad because they are not able to establish their own families.
Apparently, these are understandable reasons, pretty much acceptable. Of course, to grow old alone would mean you've to be able to save a lot of money so you'd be able to get a care-giver who can wipe-off your ass and feed you if you're already impaired. To grow old alone would mean exerting extra effort to find a special place where you can share your love and knowledge. More than that, for some people, to grow old alone is quite a misery because this would mean that you’re not able to share your experiences, knowledge, and love to people who could be close to your heart (i.e. own kids).
You know, life is really beautiful. You may be in a position right now that you are searching (I hate this word) for that special someone whom you can be with forever. You are searching for that person "who can accept you as who you are and someone whom you would accept warts and all". Just enjoy life!
If in case your quest for that special someone turns out to be a dud, life must continue. You just have to realize that being alone doesn't mean you're a loser. You'll only become a loser only if that fear of leaving alone caused you to settle with a person you don’t really find special just for the sake of having someone with you in the future.
Actually, you can do a lot of things in case you grow old alone. I tried to list down some of the possible alternatives you can venture into:
- You have the option to adopt. That’s if you want to raise a kid or children. Except that it is advisable that the kid/s should know the real set-up. This way, you are able to share the love and experiences within you.
- You can also be active in organizations that cater to children. Like for example, you can help Kythe or an orphanage probably.
- You can teach. If you’ve the passion to share your knowledge and you love young people, I guess this will be a great venture.
These are just some of the possible ventures you may turn to in case your quest for that special someone will not be successful.
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Additional Note:
Should that person come your way, don't nag too much. Don't question everything that he does. Don't be too demanding with the fear that you might lose that probable special someone. Finally, just learn how to trust. :-P
P.S.
I’m so feeling expert :P
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