Read Between the Lines

I've posted some months ago about the idea of "the look of love" in finding (not searching) that special someone. Now, I'm quite a little being "pessimistic" about that idea. I just realized that in anything that I do, I make sure that I value "thinking" more than mere "hunch". I must admit that there were some instances that I also believed in gut-feel. Yet, these were always followed by some-sort of analysis - to balance things.

To be logical about things is absolutely helpful. It assists you in properly or rightfully rejecting or accepting hypothesis. It helps you to come up with fair judgment (probably). Of course, the basis for your logical interpretations will be your observations. But in the aspect of love, often times, these observations couldn't be purely 'observations' as they could be tainted with the 'feelings' or 'hopeful feelings' of a person.

Let's say for example, you've a big crush with Person A. Your gut-feel tells you that you feel "the look of love" for that person and it seems that Person A also feels "the look of love" for you. It is normal that you observe Person A's actions and try to see if Person A feels something special for you. But for someone who's already biased, it's nearly possible that the supposed logical interpretation of your observations would be affected by your gut-feel or possibly hopeful feelings.

This now leads me to thinking that "the look of love" will never be easy to identify in a logical sense. It always boils down to the fact that being logical -- meaning analyzing occurrences and observations to make judgements -- would forever be affected by wishful thinking. Does this mean that to know that you've met your special someone is not a logical undertaking? Of course not, it really still has to be done in a logical manner.

Well, I guess the most logical thing for you to do is to wait. Yes, you heard it right, wait. You may take the pleasure of believing that Person A also finds you special. I guess, there's nothing wrong about thinking that Person A is that special person with "the look of love." It would however be unhealthy if you're so fixated of that idea that it eventually ruins your life if you found out that you've made a wrong interpretation.

Not until such time that Person A admits to you the real feelings, it could never be confirmed (malamang).

While some say action speaks louder than words and that finding the right words to express feelings is hard, to be subtle in expressing true emotions maybe sweet and exciting but it can put you in pain. It also places the other person in pain coupled with ambiguity and anxiety. While there are people good in sending signals, other may be poor in understanding the signals or maybe afraid to interpret the signs.

You cannot always make the other person "correctly" read things between the lines. I guess in love, not all people have the courage to read between the lines (amid the hunch or observations that there may be something special). Most are fearful of making a wrong judgment.

"You must always follow your heart
and not your mind because there's a saying:
NEVER MIND!" =))