... I'm homo?
I just want to share this as I know a lot of people have been to this kind of situation. Effeminate guys branded as gays. Boyish-acting ladies mistaken as lesbians. While there's nothing bad about being homo, it's bad to be branded as one if you're not.
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Haha! Funny! Just last year, I wrote something about my relatives' impression that I'm a lesbian. But I've proven to them (as far as I know) that I'm not. It's my sister who's actually a homosexual. It's just weird that I receive that same sentiment a year and some days from the time I wrote that piece. This time, it came from my former professor.
Kamustahan mode in a reunion. People were asking about the love lives of each other. Then the prof asked, "Ikaw Lalah, nagka-girlfriend ka na?"
Like everyone's waiting for me to COME OUT. Powta. Haha!
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Everyone makes judgments...
...so relax.
But if judgment is simply far from reality, it's hard to keep cool.
Most of us haven't really moved from believing or expecting traditional gender roles. Men have to be physically strong and brave. They are always expected to act as if they are always ready for a fight. They are expected to enjoy activities that show power dominance/strength (e.g. sports, drinking, going after girls). Meanwhile, ladies are still expected to act gracefully. We are expected to act sweet and be charming. The hobbies or interests that fit us should be things like arts and fashion.
To act differently from these expected behavior (even a bit), you can be easily judged.
Men who are effeminate are automatically branded as gays. Those who are less interested have different approach in women are often mistaken as gays or bisexuals. Men who are passionate of arts would often get doubtful look from people. Similarly, women who are quite "brusko" are easily thought as lesbians. Those who don't enjoy wearing girlish clothing and accessories aren't simply casual people but lesbians. If you have a different perspective of being in a relationship or if you happen not to be in a relationship, don't be surprised to hear rumors or one-liners (like the one I got) questioning your gender preference.
If you're bothered of a person's sexual preference (you're thinking that he/she is hiding in a closet) because of any of these:
1) You're concerned that being in a closet has ill-effect on his/her well-being;
2) you're bothered by the kind of attitude he/she has developed being in a closet (meaning you're life is drastically affected); OR
3) you like him/her but confused if you can be liked (dahil baka attracted pala siya sa same sex)
then, why not confront the person? Subtle one-liners simply create issues rather than clarification.
Kung simpleng intrigero/intrigera ka lang, better shut your mouth.
I just want to share this as I know a lot of people have been to this kind of situation. Effeminate guys branded as gays. Boyish-acting ladies mistaken as lesbians. While there's nothing bad about being homo, it's bad to be branded as one if you're not.
********
Haha! Funny! Just last year, I wrote something about my relatives' impression that I'm a lesbian. But I've proven to them (as far as I know) that I'm not. It's my sister who's actually a homosexual. It's just weird that I receive that same sentiment a year and some days from the time I wrote that piece. This time, it came from my former professor.
Kamustahan mode in a reunion. People were asking about the love lives of each other. Then the prof asked, "Ikaw Lalah, nagka-girlfriend ka na?"
Like everyone's waiting for me to COME OUT. Powta. Haha!
********
Everyone makes judgments...
...so relax.
But if judgment is simply far from reality, it's hard to keep cool.
Most of us haven't really moved from believing or expecting traditional gender roles. Men have to be physically strong and brave. They are always expected to act as if they are always ready for a fight. They are expected to enjoy activities that show power dominance/strength (e.g. sports, drinking, going after girls). Meanwhile, ladies are still expected to act gracefully. We are expected to act sweet and be charming. The hobbies or interests that fit us should be things like arts and fashion.
To act differently from these expected behavior (even a bit), you can be easily judged.
Men who are effeminate are automatically branded as gays. Those who are less interested have different approach in women are often mistaken as gays or bisexuals. Men who are passionate of arts would often get doubtful look from people. Similarly, women who are quite "brusko" are easily thought as lesbians. Those who don't enjoy wearing girlish clothing and accessories aren't simply casual people but lesbians. If you have a different perspective of being in a relationship or if you happen not to be in a relationship, don't be surprised to hear rumors or one-liners (like the one I got) questioning your gender preference.
If you're bothered of a person's sexual preference (you're thinking that he/she is hiding in a closet) because of any of these:
1) You're concerned that being in a closet has ill-effect on his/her well-being;
2) you're bothered by the kind of attitude he/she has developed being in a closet (meaning you're life is drastically affected); OR
3) you like him/her but confused if you can be liked (dahil baka attracted pala siya sa same sex)
then, why not confront the person? Subtle one-liners simply create issues rather than clarification.
Kung simpleng intrigero/intrigera ka lang, better shut your mouth.
3 comments:
Bakit, may quota ba na one gay per family lang? :) Malay ba nila kung dalawa kayo.
Funny. Binura ko dun sa original na sinulat ko na "tama na an isa". Sayang naman ang genes kung dalawa kami :))
So you're afraid it's nature's way of telling your family not to reproduce anymore? :))
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