Homosexuality: Probable Cause and Acceptance

Lurking around PEx, I came across a debate about homosexuality being choice or nature. Been reading through the different point of views in that forum as I’ve been bothered with issues of homosexuality – probable cause, coming out, and acceptance.

Probable Cause

Does one become a homosexual because of his/her environment? Is it a form of 'rebellion' or 'creation of an identity? Or is it simply natural - genetic?

Some scientific studies revealed that Homosexuality is genetic as opposed to some claims that it is caused by merely environmental factors. Out of curiosity, I browsed through different articles on homosexuality and genetics.

Given that genetics and heredity are connected, been thinking if homosexuality is something transmitted. Trying to observe our family, I've seen a trace of homosexuality transmission of sorts. I've at least (as far as I know) 8 relatives on my father side who are homosexuals (gays and lesbians). Well, it seems that my family's story is already a proof I can hold on to believe that homosexuality is nature and heredity has something to do with it as well.

Apparently, the environment has more influence on the choice to "come out" and not in being a homosexual per se.

Acceptance

Why a heterosexual like me would be interested in issues about homosexuality?

First, I enjoy analyzing people. Actually, I pretty-much enjoy Psychology and Gender Studies. Knowing people, where they are coming from, will make it somehow easy for anyone to understand the way they act as well as the way they think.

Second, I've observed that I've high homo-radar (for the lack of term). I love observing people, whom I suspect to be homosexual (not because I want to create issues about them). I want to understand the reasons behind hiding (if it’s more than just familial and societal acceptance). In connection with that, I want to prove my theory that closets have more hang-ups and insecurities. The more they hide the real them, the more they become unjust (that's just my thinking though).

Third, I'm confronted of the issue of acceptance. To quote a friend, “the issue of homosexuality is very much complicated.” True enough, it’s too complicated. But it’s even more complicated when you’re trying to understand and accept the reality that someone close to your heart is a lesbian.

It seems that the easiest way to understand and accept that person's situation is considering the claim that homosexuality is genetic. It seems that her gender has nothing to do with rebellion, trend, or creation of a different identity. Looking at the situation in that perspective will make you realize that it's her "nature" and you can't do anything about it but to accept and understand. It's never a sin to the entire human race to be a homo after all.

P.S.

Honestly, I haven't fully accepted the situation (but I know I'm getting there). It still pains me whenever I see her girlfriend's picture.